I have judged you. I have judged your choice of friends, your choice of men and your choice of shoes. I have judged you because you made a different choice than me, and also because you made the same ones I did. I judged your fake boobs and flat chest, your ass and feet. I have picked you apart from the color of your hair to the color of your toe polish, from the size of your hands to the thickness of your eyebrows. Sometimes I judged out of fear, sometimes out of pain or jealousy or weakness; but always I judged you unfairly. It doesn’t matter how many men or women we’ve been with, it doesn’t matter whether you cut me off in traffic, trash-talk me or if you make more or less money than me. I am so sorry for judging you.
ALL WOMEN DESERVE TO BE CELEBRATED. We all deserve to be loved for who we are, who we were, who we may be. We deserve to be appreciated and supported regardless of the decisions we take (or don’t take). Every skin color, every dress size, every relationship status, every labia shape deserves to be unwaveringly adored and respected. I revere every woman, every person who identifies as a woman, who once identified as one, for their sheer unadulterated courage to be who they are. I laud every woman who finds beauty in herself and the world, and I praise every woman who has the strength to go forward despite the ugliness she may face.
I will consciously bless each woman I find myself putting down as a silent apology until the day that blessing for what they are rather than judging becomes my automatic response. (I will then bless myself because I clearly need it too.) I will stop putting labels on women and I’ll stop throwing them in boxes because we are so much more than “mothers”, “vegans”, “professionals”, “girly-girls” or “housewives”. A woman can be anything and everything she desires, whether they appear to contradict in my mind or not.
I vow to support all women on their journey because it is THEIR journey. Just as I have been allowed to live my life the way I so choose, I will protect that right of all women I meet and work with; their lives are theirs to live, to enjoy, to experience. There is no one “right” woman, there is no one “right” decision and there is no one “right” path. We are all women seeking to create, to be powerful, to step into our ever-changing, ever-evolving, ever-growing selves. I commit myself to advocating for any and every woman’s choice that allows every other woman and person to be who they want to be, and I will encourage all women to do what they feel and know is best.